I received an invitation to attend a friend’s BBQ pot luck dinner. We arrived at 6:05pm. The party started at 6pm. The food was great the company of the host and hostess was equally as great. But the other guests really needed to brush up on their guest etiquette!
Whether you’re a long time friend or recent acquaintance, good manners matter.
- When the invitation states 6pm, try to be there no later than 6:15pm, but no earlier than 6pm. Casual as it is don’t arrive 1 hour late!
- Ask the hostess what they would like you to bring. Try to bring it over in advance; there is nothing worse than greeting other guests while also trying to assemble your dish. Bringing your pot luck item in advance enables the hostess to mingle.
- It is incredibly rude to not bring a small gift for the host/hostess. It is a small token of your appreciation.
- Ideas: Wine, wine stoppers, cocktail napkins, chocolates, flowers (Try to have flowers delivered in advance. This will make less work for the hostess)
- It is not the host or hostess’s responsibility to baby sit you. Go out on a limb and introduce yourself to someone you don’t know.
- There is nothing worse than making a fool of yourself and not remembering the party. Believe me, people will remember you!
- Thank the host when leaving. Also send a thank-you note within 24-48 hours by mail. If you were invited by e-mail it is fine to send a quick thank-you by email. Remember everyone loves a hand written card sent in the mail. You will leave a fabulous impression.
Please remember, whatever the event whether a backyard cookout or a cocktail party, good manners matter. Etiquette is always essential!